Download Article
Explore this Article
methods
1Complimenting a Crush
2Complimenting a Female Friend
3Complimenting a Girl You Are Dating
Other Sections
VideoWATCH NOW
Tips and Warnings
Related Articles
References
Article Summary
Co-authored byChristina Jay, NLP
Last Updated: January 23, 2023Fact Checked
Download Article
ARTICLE
VIDEO
Seeing a pretty girl is a common occurrence. Sometimes, you may see a girl and have the urge to tell her that you think she is pretty. This can be a very nice gesture. Everyone enjoys a compliment, and when you tell a girl she is pretty you can help her self-esteem. However, it is very important that this is done with taste. You need to be absolutely sure that it is appropriate and that you do not come off as a creep.
Method 1
Method 1 of 3:
Complimenting a Crush
Download Article
1
Pick the right spot. Your compliment might not be welcome if the setting is wrong. Inside the office, at a professional meeting, in the classroom, and even out to lunch with colleagues are inappropriate situations to tell a girl that she is pretty. Doing so in these circ*mstances will put the girl on the spot and could embarrass her, which is not what you want to do.
- A compliment could also seen as inappropriate if you are on strictly professional terms, either by her or by co-workers and friends. It may also violate your workplace’s sexual harassment policy.[1]
- Telling a stranger on the street that she is pretty walks a fine line with harassment and will probably not be welcomed. Cat-calling and whistling are also not OK.[2]
- The words might be on the tip of your tongue, but think first. Make sure it is the right time and place.
2
Try to be familiar with the girl. It is important that you have had some interaction with the girl who you are telling, even if you have just exchanged a few smiles in the past. This way she will have a degree of comfort with you before you tell her she is pretty.
- Your compliment might go awry if you do not know the girl well. She may consider it out of the blue and “creepy.”
- If you can, get to know her a bit. Exchange small talk or pleasantries before class or at the water cooler. If you are bolder and work together, try sitting at the same table as her over lunch in order to introduce yourself. Make some small talk.
- Use other social situations to get to know her. It is easier to tell a girl she is pretty after you’ve spent some time together and are on friendly terms. For example, you could talk while waiting for the bus before or after school, at office parties, or during group projects.
Advertisem*nt
3
Plan what you intend to say beforehand. Without a plan for what to say when you approach a pretty girl, it is possible that you will stumble over your words, appear confused, and generally seem awkward. This is not the impression you want to make. By planning what you want to say and how to say it, you will be better able to handle the situation and come off as confident and smooth.[3]
- Think about how you want to initially approach the girl and begin your conversation.
- Think about what makes the girl pretty in your eyes, and plan on sharing this with her in a gentle way.
- Avoid long-winded speechifying. Keep it short, sweet, and to-the-point.
4
Make your move. A simple "hello" will do to begin a conversation. You can then follow this up with a few questions about her, her day, and her plans. Starting with small talk will help you be more confident with the girl, and the girl be more confident with you.
- Stay calm and be yourself. Don’t try to put on a false face or you might come across as insincere. Even worse, the girl may think you are joking.
- Pay attention to body language when talking. Make sure that you look her in the eyes instead of elsewhere. This will show her that you are engaged and interested in her and the conversation. Do not lean towards her in an aggressive way, but stand back in a relaxed manner.[4]
- Try to read her body language, as well. If she faces you or leans in slightly, it means that she is engaged in the conversation and may be interested.[5]
- Try not to fear rejection. Tell yourself that you have little to lose if she is not interested. Besides, fear will only work against you.
5
Tell her that she looks pretty. There are a number of ways to do this after you have had some initial conversation. What is critical is that you do not blurt out your compliment in the middle of the conversation. Instead, wait for a lull in the conversation.
See AlsoHow to Tell Someone They Are Beautiful: 9 Best Tips & Tricks3 Ways to Accept Being Unattractive - wikiHow- Try something like “You look very pretty this evening” or “I just wanted to say that you look pretty tonight.” It is usually good to go with simplicity.
- You might also try to be original and plan your own lines. “I’ve always thought you have lovely eyes” or an indirect “Have you done something new with your hair? It is very pretty the way that it frames your face.”
6
Build on your initial compliment. If the girl responds well to your compliment, consider continuing with a bit more flattery. Draw attention to the little things that you find beautiful about her. Perhaps it is her eyes, her eyebrows or something else.
- Avoid sexually charged compliments. Not only does this objectify her, but it also crosses the line of good sense and decency.[6]
- Be genuine with your compliments, though, and don’t go over the top.
- Avoid clichés, as well.
Advertisem*nt
Method 2
Method 2 of 3:
Complimenting a Female Friend
Download Article
1
Be mindful of setting. A passing compliment to a female friend, work colleague, or peer on her dress or appearance might be fine in a professional setting. However, you again need to be mindful of the context and also your mutual level of comfort.
- It is best to be close friends with the girl before you compliment her on looks, in order to avoid possible misunderstand or complication.
- Schools and workplaces nowadays are careful about maintaining a safe environment and don’t take kindly to sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is any “unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.”[7][8]
- Your compliment might be friendly and good-intentioned, but could be perceived as unwelcome or aggressive by another. Be sure that your friend is comfortable with you.
2
Keep it casual and gentle. Avoid misunderstanding by all means possible. Make sure that your friend realizes that you are just offering her a nice, friendly, brotherly compliment and doesn’t think that you are interested in more. Tone and body language are key.
- Make sure that your tone is casual and gentle when paying the compliment.
- Consider complimenting her in an indirect way – a way that says she is pretty without necessarily directly referencing her appearance.[9]
- It is also important that your body language is non-aggressive. Don’t lean in too much and respect her personal space. Don’t move in too closely, in other words.
3
Pay her the compliment. Let the compliment come out naturally in the course of conversation. Say, “I like your new sweater. You look very pretty in it” or “You’re looking very lovely and in high spirits today!”
- After paying her the compliment, proceed about your normal activities and continue working.
- A compliment that does not focus directly on appearance might be something like “You light up the room with your smile.”
Advertisem*nt
Method 3
Method 3 of 3:
Complimenting a Girl You Are Dating
Download Article
1
Keep those compliments coming. If you are already in a relationship with the target girl, then you should be sure to keep the stream of compliments flowing. Don’t take it for granted that she knows you consider her pretty. She will appreciate hearing it every now and then – and the more the better.[10]
- “You are so beautiful/cute/pretty/lovely” will always work. Or, alternately, call her a goddess or say something like, “You are as pretty as you are smart.”
- Focus on different outfits, as well. When your girlfriend wears a new outfit, tell her how good she looks in it.
2
Be creative. Think of different ways to compliment your girlfriend once a day. When you are in a relationship, simply telling your girlfriend she is pretty may grow stale. Fortunately, there are a number of other ways to pay her compliments.
- Compliment her on looks, but also on her personality, her dress, her scent, and her grooming. Trying saying in you next conversation, “You are right! You’re so smart.”
- Try more general compliments that reflect how happy you are with her, like “I'm so lucky to have a pretty girl like you” or "You make me so happy.”
- Compliment her in new and different ways. Try making her a playlist of songs that have meaning for the two of you, for example. Everyone's love language is different.[11]
3
Back up your words with actions. Words go even better with gestures. Every once and a while, for instance, bring your girlfriend a random gift to back up all the compliments you have been paying her. She will remember your thoughtfulness.[12]
- You can try also leaving a note, sending her a random text message and/or posting a comment on her facebook or instagram page, or calling her unexpectedly. Use your imagination.
Advertisem*nt
Community Q&A
Search
Question
What if I'm an introvert and I'm too nervous to tell her she's pretty?
Community Answer
Start small. Just casually tell her something like, "I like your shirt," or, "You look nice today." Gather enough courage first. The second you feel confident, start walking in her direction. After you greet her, ask her how she's doing, then compliment her. If she says she's not doing well, ask her if there's anything you can do to help. Be a good friend.
Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
Thank you for your feedback.
If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission.Support wikiHowYesNo
Not Helpful 6Helpful 22
Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Advertisem*nt
Video
Read Video Transcript
Tips
Stay away from exaggerations. "You're the most beautiful girl on the whole planet" is a clear exaggeration and will not come across as sincere.
Thanks
Helpful6Not Helpful1
Do not tell a girl she is pretty while you are drunk. This is creepy.
Thanks
Helpful2Not Helpful2
Do not be overly sexual.
Thanks
Helpful2Not Helpful2
Show More Tips
Submit a Tip
All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published
Submit
Thanks for submitting a tip for review!
Advertisem*nt
Warnings
Be very careful with sexual harassment in the work place. If in doubt, keep your thoughts to yourself.
Thanks
Helpful11Not Helpful1
Advertisem*nt
You Might Also Like
Advertisem*nt
References
- ↑ https://sfgov.org/dosw/sexual-harassment-frequently-asked-questions#Can%20I%20compliment
- ↑ https://www.un.org/womenwatch/osagi/pdf/whatissh.pdf
- ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M15qcqsCUGE
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/nonverbal-communication.htm
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/someone-likes-you/
- ↑ https://sfgov.org/dosw/sexual-harassment-frequently-asked-questions
- ↑ https://www.ohrc.on.ca/en/policy-preventing-sexual-and-gender-based-harassment/5-sexual-harassment-education-0
- ↑ https://www2.education.vic.gov.au/pal/sexual-harassment/overview
- ↑ http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/05/how-to-compliment-a-woman-without-objectifying-them/
More References (3)
- ↑ Chris Willatt. House Cleaning Professional. Expert Interview. 1 July 2019.
- ↑ Chris Willatt. House Cleaning Professional. Expert Interview. 1 July 2019.
- ↑ Chris Willatt. House Cleaning Professional. Expert Interview. 1 July 2019.
About This Article
![3 Ways to Tell a Girl She Is Pretty - wikiHow (34) 3 Ways to Tell a Girl She Is Pretty - wikiHow (34)](https://i0.wp.com/www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/9/9a/Christina_Jay.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Christina_Jay.png)
Co-authored by:
Christina Jay, NLP
Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
This article was co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP. Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University. This article has been viewed 183,987 times.
6 votes - 37%
Co-authors: 12
Updated: January 23, 2023
Views:183,987
Categories: Conversation Skills
Article SummaryX
Telling a girl she’s pretty can be a great way to pay her a compliment. But it’s important to do it carefully so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable. Before you tell her she’s pretty, make sure you pick a good setting. For instance, she’s more likely to appreciate the compliment in a relaxed environment, like at a party or on a date. It’s also best if you already know the girl a little bit, since some people feel uncomfortable with strangers commenting on their looks. Before you tell her she’s pretty, think a little bit about what exactly you want to say to her. For instance, it might be more meaningful to her if you comment on something specific, like her eyes, her smile, or something she’s wearing. Before you make your move, wait for a moment when you’re both relaxed. Try making a little small talk first so your compliment doesn’t come out of the blue. When there’s a natural pause in the conversation, say something like, “You look really pretty tonight,” or “You have such a beautiful smile. It always brightens my day.” If she seems to like it, you can even build on the compliment. Say something like, “That dress really brings out the color of your eyes.” If she doesn’t seem into it, try not to sweat it. Just move on and talk about other things. To learn how to compliment your girlfriend, read on!
Did this summary help you?
In other languages
German
Spanish
French
Indonesian
Dutch
- Send fan mail to authors
Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 183,987 times.
Reader Success Stories
Sadcarrot
Jul 30, 2020
"She asking for a date, awesome. Also wedding bells!"
Did this article help you?
Advertisem*nt