You know the saying – “sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me
”. It’s wrong. Words are powerful weapons and can do a lot of damage.
“You’re *#@!% stupid.
” “I wish you were never born.
” “No one is ever going to love you, you’re so *#@!% fat and ugly.
” “You never get anything right.
” “You’re worthless.
” These are mean and degrading things to say to someone. They hurt. And, they can undermine a person’s self-confidence and feelings of belonging and happiness.
Saying hurtful things, swearing at you, threatening to wreck your stuff or clothes, and yelling at you constantly are all examples of emotional abuse. It is also emotional abuse to ignore you for long periods of time. Emotional abuse is another type of family violence.
If this has happened to you …
First, remind yourself that every human being is worthy and capable of loving and being loved, including you.
Now, think about how you feel. Has hearing someone say mean things to you got you down? Do you feel alone? Sad? If you do, try talking to someone you trust about how you feel. A family friend, a relative, your neighbour, teacher, coach, doctor – there are a lot of people who will listen to you and remind you that you’re a special and important person.
