One Reason Why You Might Feel an Instant Connection (2024)

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Why do people feel an instant connection? ›

We often surmise that they are relying too heavily on first impressions or that they are just too eager to find a new partner. Well, new research suggests that when people respond quickly to each other in conversation, they do feel that they have "clicked" and feel connected (Templeton, et.al. 2022).

Apart from our mood, other factors play an important role when we decide within seconds whether someone is attractive or not. According to sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, these factors are geographical constraints, similarity, physical excitement, shortage, looks, hormones, and neurotransmitters.

An emotional connection is about sharing feelings, being vulnerable, seeking to understand each other, and meeting one another with trust. Having an emotional connection isn't just about talking either, it's about feeling close, valued, and cared for by the other person.

Connecting with others is a sense of being open and available to another person, even as you feel they are open and available to you. Other ingredients of human connection are empathy and compassion – we feel goodwill to the person we are connecting with.

Romantic chemistry is often described as a "spark" felt between two people upon first meeting. While sexual chemistry is an initiator, emotional and intellectual connections make for longer-lasting relationships. Greater use of dating apps has changed our perception of chemistry and how we recognize it.

When you meet a soulmate, Nuñez says, there will be an instant connection, quite literally like you already know them, even though you just met. "You just feel like you've known that person forever—it's having that deep connection where you simply recognize that soul," she explains.

We feel more connected with people whose postures, vocal rhythms, facial expressions, and even eyeblinks match our own. Maybe clicking can be triggered from the outside in: Consciously sync the actions you can control—posture, expression, and the like—with other people's, and your brain activity may follow. Click.

More hormones

And physical contact — hugging as well as sexual contact — has been shown to increase oxytocin, the love hormone. So it makes sense that spending more time with someone, enjoying their company, and touching them more would make you feel more attracted to them.

The sense of being drawn to someone encompasses your physiological senses, hormones, nerves, and even your immune response. It could be ignited by a myriad of signals, ranging from the contours of someone's face to their unique scent.

What creates a deep connection? ›

Be compassionate and show empathy

If someone close to you is experiencing a bad day, lend them a listening ear and understand why they're feeling so down. Sometimes, that's all the TLC you need to connect with someone!

Infatuation is also a deep sense of connection, mainly based on the idealization of someone else. It can feel intense, passionate, and beyond reason. Many may refer to it as love at first sight. Love, on the other hand, may be less oblivious to another person's shortcomings or incompatibilities.

Well, the simple answer can be, “Yes!” Many times, people can sense when someone is attracted to them. This feeling between two people is frequently called “chemistry” or a “spark.”

This profound connection we share with others – the connection that enables us to feel a rush of intimacy, an instant bond and a sense of trust – is what many refer as 'clicking' with another person.

When you feel a connection with someone else, your feeling may or may not be reciprocated. You may think the other person also feels it, but that's only your perception unless the other person shares their feelings with you.

Well, the simple answer can be, “Yes!” Many times, people can sense when someone is attracted to them. This feeling between two people is frequently called “chemistry” or a “spark.”